When I tell people this they look amazed and sometimes I am amazed myself. I often look at my life and hear the lyrics of David Byrne:
You may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful wife.
And you may ask yourself, ‘Well…How did I get here?’
To tell you the truth I know that I am both blessed and fortunate but I also know that it is the wise athlete who realizes that the more he practices, the luckier he becomes.
How I Got Here
I started The Commitment Project to tell couples how my wife and I did it and to show you how to do it yourself. The Commitment Project is here to support you in your marriage and to show you how amazingly simple it can be to find someone, love them, commit to them and stay with them for the rest of your life.
The Rules of Marriage
Long before I began studying marriage counseling and before I became a counselor myself, I discovered that while marriage and relationships may be complex, the rules are really quite simple. The Commitment Project will teach you these rules and support you as you move through your year, giving you the tools and encouragement to help your marriage succeed.
What is the Commitment Project?
Think of the Commitment Project as a monthly marriage retreat, delivered to your doorstep. Each package is filled with gifts, tools, testimonials, worksheets and inspiration that will support you and your spouse in living out the most important promise you will ever make.
The Secret Truth about Marriage
The secret of a successful marriage (and a successful life) is commitment. Commitment is more important than compatibility, attraction or fulfillment. One problem with the way our society views marriage is they expect all of these things (happiness, fulfillment, etc.) first and once they have them, then they will commit. A little known secret I will let you in on is that doing things in this order is impossible. It is impossible to have compatibility, attraction or fulfillment sustainably without first making that vital commitment.
Commitment Lays the Foundation
When your marriage is based on steadfast commitment you are giving yourself a solid foundation to build your life on. When you have a solid foundation you are then able to cultivate fulfillment, pursue happiness and enjoy real life and love. Many of our pursuits are about escaping from reality but when we do this we are robbing ourselves of the opportunity to live a full life. The more reality you allow yourself to experience, the greater your chances of fulfillment will be.
The Greatest Gift is Your Marriage
I worked with a couple who had been together for 50 years and the wife told me that building a strong marriage when you are young is the greatest gift you can give yourself in your golden years.
Give yourself and your spouse the gift of a lifelong marriage
and let The Commitment Project help you on your way:
